Priest and philosopher Anthony De Mello speaks about two
kinds of selfishness –
The first type is the one where
I give myself the pleasure of pleasing myself.
That’s what we generally call self-centredness.
The second is where
I give myself the pleasure of pleasing others.
That would be a more refined kind of selfishness.
The first one is visible, but the second one is hidden.
As one looks inwards,
The ‘self’ slowly dissolves. Hence less self-ish.
The ‘others’ dissolve. Hence less self-ish.
No Self. No Self-ish-ness.
Wisdom Is –
Self Awareness > Self Dissolution